Family

I’ve been with my husband for 12 years (married for 5) and we had our first kid a year ago. His family always interfered in our lives to the point where I had to take our baby and leave. It hurt when my husband didn’t try to stop me. Now he says he wants to make it work but he hasn’t seen our child in months and missed his birthday. I want to make it work but I have to do what’s best for my son. Should I continue to try or move on? – Conflicted Mother

Dear Conflicted, It seems that when a woman gives birth, everyone she knows, including her friends, her family members, and, most especially, her in-laws want to give child-rearing advice – everything from how to feed the baby and when to bathe it to what to do when the baby feels overwhelmed and unsafe. Regardless, it is the parents’ obligation to…

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Ethnic Diversity

I am new to Canada and I love this country, but I’m struggling. It’s really hard to build a social network from the ground up. I think Canadians are so nice, but I feel very lost and miss my home country. I found a part-time job at a retail store and am starting school in September. Do you have any advice for making friends, and coping with the loneliness that I’m feeling? – Lonely Immigrant

Dear Lonely, Welcome to Canada! It’s heartwarming to learn that you love this country. It’s because of immigrants just like you, who form a bond with and have affection for Canada, that this country has become the multicultural mecca that it is. It’s true that relocating to a new country, and settling in it, is scary at times. This change…

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Relationships

After dating my boyfriend for about 4 months, he wanted me to meet his parents. I’m not religious but his dad is a pastor, which made me super nervous. Needless to say, it didn’t go well and they told him I’m not a girl of quality!! Ouch. My boyfriend says he doesn’t care what they think and it’s a non-issue, but this is a huge problem for me. What should my next move be? – Girl of Quality

Dear Girl, Meeting a partner’s parents for the first time is no doubt nerve-wracking for the best of us. I mean, seeking approval from a partner’s parents is important and it is true that getting this approval usually results in a much closer romantic relationship. But what if approval is not given, as in your case? First of all, your…

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Relationships

I am a 40-year-old male suffering from Erectile Dysfunction. My wife says she still loves me and that it doesn’t matter that we’re not having sex, but I think it does. My urologist says there is no cure and that I should buy a pump or take up running. Please help. – Less of a man

Dear Less, Sexuality, and its expression with one’s lover leads to a wonderful connection between two people, so I agree with you: it does matter. As I see it, there are two issues to consider: the type of “erectile dysfunction” you may be experiencing and how, despite this concern, you and your wife can still have a sexually-healthy marriage. Typically,…

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Career Advice

I’m an 18-year-old male and my Chinese parents are pushing me to become a lawyer or a doctor but I want to follow my passion in fashion design. They argue that I need to become something that they never had a chance to become. I want to make the right choice, what should I do? – Passion for Fashion

Dear Passion, Congratulations on entering the throes of adulthood! Being an adult in Canada allows you the legal power to choose the direction of your life. In reality, you can make the decision to live wherever you want, date whomever you prefer, and attend whichever school you choose. But, being raised by Chinese parents, in – what I’m presuming –…

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