Career Advice

I am a Licensed Optician. I LOVE my career but I am losing my confidence at it because my eyesight is failing by way of irreversible retinal degeneration. Should I close my business?
– But I Love My Career

I am a Licensed Optician. I LOVE my career but I am losing my confidence at it because my eyesight is failing by way of irreversible retinal degeneration. Should I close my business?<br>– But I Love My Career

Dear Dr. Faizal, I am a Licensed Optician. I LOVE my career. I work at two Optometry clinics and founded a mobile service. I’m not ready to close my business but I am losing my confidence at it because my eyesight is failing by way of irreversible retinal degeneration. I…

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Relationships

Lately, my immigrant wife has become irritable, emotionally distant and pensive. How do I show her I love her?
– Seeking Special Valentine’s Day

Dear Dr. Faizal, My wife and I are in a cross-cultural relationship; I’m a Caucasian-Canadian and she’s an Indian immigrant. We met and married in India four years ago and moved to Canada. She’s a wonderful partner – supportive, loving, and really tried hard to assimilate into the culture. Lately,…

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Career Advice

I’ve been practicing as a full scope LPN since 2011. The trouble is that I can’t seem to hold a job down. I had three last year and now I’m down to one. I was fired from one of my jobs because I’d take shifts then cancel them. I work nights at the job I have now but I think it’s affecting my health and overall well-being. So, I put in my two weeks’ notice without a backup plan. I love nature being outside and alternative method to healing. I don’t know what I’m going to do next. Please help. – Why is This Happening

I’ve been practicing as a full scope LPN since 2011. The trouble is that I can’t seem to hold a job down. I had three last year and now I’m down to one. I was fired from one of my jobs because I’d take shifts then cancel them. I work nights at the job I have now but I think it’s affecting my health and overall well-being. So, I put in my two weeks’ notice without a backup plan. I love nature being outside and alternative method to healing. I don’t know what I’m going to do next. Please help. – Why is This Happening

Dear Why, Congratulations on earning your Licensed Practical Nurse credential! Your completing this program shows me that you have the commitment to seeing things through. We commit to things we enjoy and things that fulfil us. Over time, however, our interests sometimes change, and what we previously enjoyed, we no…

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Career Advice

I just got laid off. I am a new immigrant (landed on Jan 2017). I completed a Bachelors of Education in India. I would love to study further but due to lack of guidance and financial assistance, I’m scared to venture out. Please help me to choose appropriate course. – Teacher in the Making

I just got laid off. I am a new immigrant (landed on Jan 2017). I completed a Bachelors of Education in India. I would love to study further but due to lack of guidance and financial assistance, I’m scared to venture out. Please help me to choose appropriate course. – Teacher in the Making

Dear Teacher, As a new immigrant, it must be overwhelming to try to learn about and adapt to the necessities of lifestyle, including employment and education, in a new country. But know that in Canada, when one door closes, many more open to reveal various untapped opportunities. Sometimes we don’t…

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Family

I am a middle-aged man. About one year ago, my mother, whom I was very close to all my life, and who I did not want to leave behind when I immigrated to Canada, passed away. Ever since her death, I don’t have any motivation to do anything. I stopped playing with my kids, and have no desire to smile at work. I spend most of my time sleeping. My wife says that I have stopped feeling. How can I be happy again? – Grieving Loss

I am a middle-aged man. About one year ago, my mother, whom I was very close to all my life, and who I did not want to leave behind when I immigrated to Canada, passed away. Ever since her death, I don’t have any motivation to do anything. I stopped playing with my kids, and have no desire to smile at work. I spend most of my time sleeping. My wife says that I have stopped feeling. How can I be happy again? – Grieving Loss

Dear Grieving, Losing a loved-one is a challenging experience, and the resulting feelings, like sadness, anger and guilt, must be dealt with functionally for mourning to occur. Your symptoms of long-term lack of interest in family and work, excessive sleeping, and perhaps a fear of expressing feelings describe a person…

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Relationships

I’m dating a guy I met online for two months. We’re not official yet, but monogamy is a must for him. We talk/text every day. We’ve introduced each other to our friends. He says has feelings for me and is not looking to meet anyone else and I stopped seeing others and deleted my online profile. But my friend saw him being active on the dating website and we learned he has two profiles! He’s since deleted the profile we met through but apparently still logs on daily with the other one. He doesn’t know I know. Am I expecting too much? – Dismayed by Active Dating Profile

I’m dating a guy I met online for two months. We’re not official yet, but monogamy is a must for him. We talk/text every day. We’ve introduced each other to our friends. He says has feelings for me and is not looking to meet anyone else and I stopped seeing others and deleted my online profile. But my friend saw him being active on the dating website and we learned he has two profiles! He’s since deleted the profile we met through but apparently still logs on daily with the other one. He doesn’t know I know. Am I expecting too much? – Dismayed by Active Dating Profile

Dear Dismayed, It’s wonderful to meet someone whom you’re so into that you have stopped looking for anyone else, who you have introduced to your friends, with whom you are monogamous, and with whom you are talking/texting every day. It’s also obvious to me that he’s interested in you. What…

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Self

I am at that point in life where I don’t have anything to look forward to. I am 30 and single with an uneventful life. My social life is limited to work because I live alone and hardly have actual friends with whom I would love to hang out. I am feeling stuck. I know I need to change but I find it hard to break out of my routine. Where should I begin? – Stuck forever

I am at that point in life where I don’t have anything to look forward to. I am 30 and single with an uneventful life. My social life is limited to work because I live alone and hardly have actual friends with whom I would love to hang out. I am feeling stuck. I know I need to change but I find it hard to break out of my routine. Where should I begin? – Stuck forever

Dear Stuck, It is true that some of us have felt, at some point in our lives, that we’re in a rut and doing the same things over and over with the same people and not feeling satisfied with our existence. It’s at this point that we must make a…

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Family

I can’t keep my plants alive. I forget to water them, or water them too much. Somehow, I always manage to kill my plants. It seems like such an easy job. Why can’t I do it right? Is something wrong with me? If I can’t even keep a cactus alive, how could I ever be a good mother? Plants should be easier to manage than babies, right? My friends always joke about this but I’m starting to think that maybe there’s some truth to that? – Motherhood Undetermined

I can’t keep my plants alive. I forget to water them, or water them too much. Somehow, I always manage to kill my plants. It seems like such an easy job. Why can’t I do it right? Is something wrong with me? If I can’t even keep a cactus alive, how could I ever be a good mother? Plants should be easier to manage than babies, right? My friends always joke about this but I’m starting to think that maybe there’s some truth to that? – Motherhood Undetermined

Dear Motherhood, Simply put, to care for plants, you could go online and acquire information on proper watering etiquette, make a watering schedule and hang it in a conspicuous place (like on your fridge) and set an alarm on your phone for the times you need to water them. But…

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