Dear Dr. Faizal
Dear Dr. Faizal
Ethnic Diversity

My husband and I are in an interracial marriage. I’m Caucasian and he is South Asian. We have managed to work through our cultural differences but now that we are parents, our son seems to have trouble with his identity. Unlike his non-interracial friends, he feels like he does not fit in. To help our son feel complete, we feel that we should raise him in one culture so that he feels like he belongs in society. What do you think? – Life from Two Worlds

Dear Life, Congratulations on achieving a successful interracial marriage! As you and your husband have been able to navigate through the cultural differences and form a relationship, I feel confident that you should be able to help your child to also form an identity for himself. A sense of belonging, or the lack thereof, is a major issue for those…

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Dear Dr. Faizal
Self

As I grow older, I’m losing the happiness and excitement I once used to feel. Also, I hate feeling stressed out, ever! I have many good things going on in my life right now – great job, great girlfriend, etc. but I haven’t achieved any of the goals I had when I was younger. I used to be so carefree, light and optimistic. I don’t know why I can’t shake the feeling that maybe something is off? Maybe it’s because of the heartbreaks over the years? I just want to go back to the innocence I once had. – Happy

Dear Happy, It’s wonderful that you have good memories of your childhood. Most children are carefree – partly because they don’t have real responsibilities. But you must realize that you are now an adult – with all the responsibilities that come with adulthood. This is natural; we all must grow up. Resisting one’s maturity and wanting to reclaim one’s childhood…

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Career Advice

I am a Licensed Optician. I LOVE my career. I work at two Optometry clinics and founded a mobile service. I’m not ready to close my business but I am losing my confidence at it because my eyesight is failing by way of irreversible retinal degeneration. I am thinking positively and looking for new ways to run my business. I can still see but am losing the detailed vision I need to do my job independently. Should I close my business? – But I Love My Career

Dear But, It’s so wonderful to hear that you love your career. I presume that you have worked very hard for many years and are dedicated to the work you do. Such dedication sometimes leads us to believe that we will always continue to play the same role that we have appreciated for so long. Appreciation for one’s career can…

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Relationships

Valentine’s Day is the worst day of the year. As the only single person of friends, I’m always hearing about plans for this day and my social media feed explodes with gifts my friends have received. Every year on Feb 14, I sit at home and watch a horror movie by myself. I want to do something different this year. Something fun. Suggestions? – Hate Being Single on V-Day

Dear Hate, It’s true that some singles become a bit sad on Valentine’s Day because they believe it’s a day for couples and that only by being a part of a couple can they be happy. If you also share this perspective, there’s a few ways you could meet someone on this day. You could, as others have done before…

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Career Advice

I’ve been practicing as a full scope LPN since 2011. The trouble is that I can’t seem to hold a job down. I had three last year and now I’m down to one. I was fired from one of my jobs because I’d take shifts then cancel them. I work nights at the job I have now but I think it’s affecting my health and overall well-being. So, I put in my two weeks’ notice without a backup plan. I love nature being outside and alternative method to healing. I don’t know what I’m going to do next. Please help. – Why is This Happening

Dear Why, Congratulations on earning your Licensed Practical Nurse credential! Your completing this program shows me that you have the commitment to seeing things through. We commit to things we enjoy and things that fulfil us. Over time, however, our interests sometimes change, and what we previously enjoyed, we no longer have the passion for anymore. This lack of passion…

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Career Advice

I just got laid off. I am a new immigrant (landed on Jan 2017). I completed a Bachelors of Education in India. I would love to study further but due to lack of guidance and financial assistance, I’m scared to venture out. Please help me to choose appropriate course. – Teacher in the Making

Dear Teacher, As a new immigrant, it must be overwhelming to try to learn about and adapt to the necessities of lifestyle, including employment and education, in a new country. But know that in Canada, when one door closes, many more open to reveal various untapped opportunities. Sometimes we don’t recognize these opportunities because of a fear of the unknown.…

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Family

I am a middle-aged man. About one year ago, my mother, whom I was very close to all my life, and who I did not want to leave behind when I immigrated to Canada, passed away. Ever since her death, I don’t have any motivation to do anything. I stopped playing with my kids, and have no desire to smile at work. I spend most of my time sleeping. My wife says that I have stopped feeling. How can I be happy again? – Grieving Loss

Dear Grieving, Losing a loved-one is a challenging experience, and the resulting feelings, like sadness, anger and guilt, must be dealt with functionally for mourning to occur. Your symptoms of long-term lack of interest in family and work, excessive sleeping, and perhaps a fear of expressing feelings describe a person who may be depressed. To deal with your immediate situation,…

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