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My fiancé and I are both in our early thirties. I am Christian and he is Hindu.
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My fiancé and I are both in our early thirties. I am Christian and he is Hindu. He is the man of my dreams, and we plan to marry in two months. While some people believe that ‘love conquers all,’ I wonder how I will know, before we get married, if he will make the best husband for me. Is it possible to get counselling before getting married? – Seeking Compatibility

Dear Seeking Compatibility, Congratulations on falling in love with the “man of [your] dreams!” While love is many times the glue that binds partners, there are other considerations to a successful marriage – things that you should discuss before the proverbial ‘I dos.’ What you are asking about is referred to as pre-marital counselling. In this type of therapy, partners…

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Dear Dr. Faizal
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I love my husband and he loves me too. I know that. But he has a habit of making sexist jokes about women and I don’t like that at all. Yesterday, we saw a well-dressed older woman and he said, “Oh! She’s a hot oldie!” I have confronted him on this on many occasions that this needs to stop. How can I make him realize that it’s wrong?? – Angry Wife

Dear Angry, I believe that any form of discrimination – whether it be racism, sexism, ageism, etc. – is wrong and should not be tolerated, regardless of whether or not you love the person who is violating this very basic social rule. The example you shared of your husband’s comment – “She’s a hot oldie” – demonstrates both ageism and…

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I’m a 30-year-old woman in a relationship since 2008. I love him very much but lately I feel like we’re losing each other. We haven’t had sex in months! I don’t want us to wait too long to do something about this just to be nice and avoid hurting each other. How do I bring back the excitement into our relationship and light the fire again because it used to be amazing? Please help me because I don’t want to lose my best friend. – Spark is Fading

Dear Spark, Many couples feel that after years together their relationship is not as passionate. You are not alone. Some couples may not feel as appreciated by their partner or may even feel neglected. More often than not, resentment starts to build and couples begin to criticize even the smallest oversights of their partner, which threatens their friendship. What leads…

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