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Intimacy

My wife and I have been married for over 24 years, and she has never performed oral sex on me. She knows that I would enjoy it but has always said she is shy to try. Now that our 25th wedding anniversary is around the corner, she wants to give me oral sex as my present. I’m so excited at the very thought of this! How can I help her be comfortable with this? –I’m so excited

Dear I’m so excited, Congratulations on your upcoming 25th wedding anniversary! I think it’s wonderful that after all these years your wife is still thinking of your needs and is now willing to give you this special gift. It is important that she, without any pressure from you, is the one who wants to learn more about cunnilingus. Besides the…

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I am a 29-year-old male and I have had sex before, but with my current girlfriend I cannot seem to be able to do it. She is a virgin, and we have tried a few times but I can’t seem to be able to enter her. Could you please help us? – I’m sexy and I know it

Dear I’m Sexy, From your question, it appears that you believe that your girlfriend, being a virgin, has something to do with you both not consummating your relationship sexually. I am presuming here that you are “unable to enter her” because your partner’s vagina is not expanding enough to allow your erect penis to begin intercourse. Enjoying successful and mutually-gratifying…

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I am in my mid-fifties and have never had a serious or significant love relationship. Wanting a serious relationship with a woman is what I’ve wanted my entire life. I’ve always wondered “what’s wrong with me”. I’ve spent lots of years improving my self-esteem and learning to like myself. I just don’t want to end up “old and alone. Any advice on what else I can do besides wishing I were just someone else? – That is Not My Name

Dear That, It’s wonderful that you are searching for a special romantic relationship with a significant other. Most of us – at any age – would like to share our life with someone we form a loving bond with, someone we value and someone who values us. For this to happen, you need to stop feeling sorry for yourself and…

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I’m 64, and my partner is 57. She’s Chinese, and I’m European. We’re not married, but we’ve been together for 8 years. We were quite adventurous, sexually, during our first 5 years together. But after my partner went through menopause, she seems to have lost interest in sex and started to say no to most of my requests in bed. Our love life became increasingly sporadic and, to be honest, somewhat boring to me (and probably to her too). For over a year now, we’ve had no sex at all. There’s deep friendship and affection between us, but I see no way to rekindle any passion. Trouble is, I miss having sex and have even visited escorts on occasion. I’ve also noticed signs of interest from several older ladies I’d find quite desirable. But I just can’t stand drama and conflict and don’t want to get emotionally entangled with anyone else, unless I first make a clear break with my partner. The idea breaking up with her—and cutting loose from my emotional moorings at 64—causes me a lot of guilt and anxiety. What do you advise? – At A Crossroads

Dear At A Crossroads, It’s wonderful that after 8 years in your romantic relationship (or perhaps because of it) you and your partner have a deep friendship and affection for each other. In most successful relationships I’ve seen, it’s the mutual love and respect in couples that gives rise to a deep level of understanding between the individuals. It appears…

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