Family

I’m ready to father a child but my wife wants to wait. She is very serious about her career and does not want to put it on hold. I understand that, but I don’t to wait much longer. Sometimes I joke about getting a surrogate or adopting but she doesn’t think it’s funny. I love my wife and her priorities are my priorities. But what if she decides she never wants kids? – Ready to be daddy

Dear Ready, Bringing a child into the world can be a very joyous experience – everything from the conception, to the first ultrasound, to feeling the first kick, to holding and making first eye contact with your son or daughter – if, and only if, both partners have similar wishes and needs. It’s obvious that you are eager to take…

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Intimacy

I am a 29-year-old male and I have had sex before, but with my current girlfriend I cannot seem to be able to do it. She is a virgin, and we have tried a few times but I can’t seem to be able to enter her. Could you please help us? – I’m sexy and I know it

Dear I’m Sexy, From your question, it appears that you believe that your girlfriend, being a virgin, has something to do with you both not consummating your relationship sexually. I am presuming here that you are “unable to enter her” because your partner’s vagina is not expanding enough to allow your erect penis to begin intercourse. Enjoying successful and mutually-gratifying…

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Intimacy

I am in my mid-fifties and have never had a serious or significant love relationship. Wanting a serious relationship with a woman is what I’ve wanted my entire life. I’ve always wondered “what’s wrong with me”. I’ve spent lots of years improving my self-esteem and learning to like myself. I just don’t want to end up “old and alone. Any advice on what else I can do besides wishing I were just someone else? – That is Not My Name

Dear That, It’s wonderful that you are searching for a special romantic relationship with a significant other. Most of us – at any age – would like to share our life with someone we form a loving bond with, someone we value and someone who values us. For this to happen, you need to stop feeling sorry for yourself and…

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Career Advice

I am a recent immigrant from Beijing, studying at a local university in Toronto. I have a Master’s degree from back home, but feel very inadequate in Canada. The problem is my English instructor continuously gives me low grades, with feedback that he cannot understand my writing. He says that I must realize that education standards in Canada are much higher than they are in China. I think he is racist. I need to pass this course. What can I do? – Student in Angst

Dear Student, Congratulations on earning a Master’s degree. Your achievement is a result of your hard work and belief in yourself. The one setback of education is that it sometimes clouds our ability to be open to criticism from others, limiting our overall perception of situations and people. Though your instructor could have been more empathic to your concerns, labeling…

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Career Advice

It’s been 18 months since I graduated with a degree in Geography. But I can’t find a job in my field! I’ve applied to hundreds of jobs and been to countless interviews but I never get the gig. I’m tired of my minimum wage part time job at a fast food restaurant. I’m so disappointed! I didn’t get any of the skills that employers ask for in university. What do I do? Should I go back to school and specialize in something? I just want my career to start already. – Why can’t I find a job?

Dear Why, As we experience the trials of university life, one of the key motivators we have is that once we’re handed this piece of paper, the world will be our oyster – we’ll get the job we’ve always dreamed of, we’ll be paid what we think we’re worth, and we’ll start establishing our career. These expectations are natural. Natural…

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