My wife and I have been married for over 24 years, and she has never performed oral sex on me. She knows that I would enjoy it but has always said she is shy to try. Now that our 25th wedding anniversary is around the corner, she wants to give me oral sex as my present. I’m so excited at the very thought of this! How can I help her be comfortable with this? –I’m so excited

Dear I’m so excited, Congratulations on your upcoming 25th wedding anniversary! I think it’s wonderful that after all these years your wife is still thinking of your needs and is now willing to give you this special gift. It is important that she, without any pressure from you, is the one who wants to learn more about cunnilingus. Besides the…

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My ex-wife left me in July. We had an arranged wedding last February in India. She was good for the first two months when we were together, then I left for Canada to resume my job. But when she came to Canada through spousal sponsorship, her behaviour changed and she always found reasons to leave and never made me a priority. I cannot get over her, what should I do? -Stressed out boy

Dear Stressed out boy, Your story is not a mere boy meets girl, boy loses girl, boy finds girl and lives happily ever after. If it was as simple as this, I could suggest ways for you to help your partner assimilate better into Canadian culture and tools for you to build a more loving and trusting bond with her.…

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Last year, I cheated on my husband and he found out.
My fiancé and I are both in our early thirties. I am Christian and he is Hindu.

My fiancé and I are both in our early thirties. I am Christian and he is Hindu. He is the man of my dreams, and we plan to marry in two months. While some people believe that ‘love conquers all,’ I wonder how I will know, before we get married, if he will make the best husband for me. Is it possible to get counselling before getting married? – Seeking Compatibility

Dear Seeking Compatibility, Congratulations on falling in love with the “man of [your] dreams!” While love is many times the glue that binds partners, there are other considerations to a successful marriage – things that you should discuss before the proverbial ‘I dos.’ What you are asking about is referred to as pre-marital counselling. In this type of therapy, partners…

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